top of page

The Relaxer


Every six-eight weeks growing up, I remember getting a fresh relaxer. The week before I would spend time preparing with low maintenance hairstyles just to minimize the chances of it burning during application. For those of you who don’t know, a relaxer is a chemical process done to curly hair to straighten/relax the hair strands. My hair was so long and thick growing up, this was the only way my mother could maintain it. One day, the Holy Spirit began to reveal something to me about this process. I pray that it helps you as you go through the process God has you in this season.

Once the relaxer is applied to the hair, the stylist goes to do something else while the client just sits and waits. As you notice, while the process is going on, there’s no additional work required by the client, in this case you. All you have to do is sit back and relax allowing the relaxer to do it’s job. So where is the “power” of the relaxer? It’s in the relaxer itself!

When God places us in a process, know that He is the relaxer and He is the one that holds all the power. The more you resist the process (scratch your head, cause twists and strands), the more burning/damage you experience. (Ask any black woman about this, you DON’T want to scratch your head during this process lol) But if you “relax” by dwelling in the house (sanctuary) of the Lord and trust that He is in control and will make every crooked path straight (curly to straight hair strands), then everything will turn out fine.

So what is The Holy Spirit wanting you to know today? To trust in the Lord and to allow Him to be in control. Don’t resist your process but learn to “relax”/rest in Him, so that what He is seeking to accomplish in you gets completed. The more you try and resist the more you only end up harming yourself. Remember that the power of the relaxer, is in the relaxer itself. Relax in God and everything will be just fine.

Scripture(s) Meditation:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding;”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3‬:‭5‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

“‘I will go before you And make the crooked places straight; I will break in pieces the gates of bronze And cut the bars of iron.”

‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭45‬:‭2‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

“The Lord will perfect that which concerns me; Your mercy, O Lord, endures forever; Do not forsake the works of Your hands.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭138‬:‭8‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Reflection Question(s): We invite you to discuss below.

What are a few ways that God has revealed to you that help you rest in Him?


124 views1 comment

Recent Posts

See All

1 Kommentar

25. Jan. 2023

By letting me know that everything will happen in time. I’ve been feeling rushed lately and 2 days ago I had to pump the brakes and stop myself. I was getting worked up over things that aren’t in my control and they will happen, just not right now. God definitely had to leave the relaxer on for extra time haha

Gefällt mir
bottom of page