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Alexa, play Independent by Webbie. "I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T, do you know what that means? She got her own house. She got her own car. Two jobs, work hard she a..." If y'all are real ones, y'all definitely sang this as y'all read it. Growing up, I remember when this song came out, it was played everywhere! For once, women had a man hyping them up for being able to do everything on their own.

But when we look at God's original design for things, we see that something is off. Where we were priding ourselves on being independent, God was telling us that it's not good for man to be alone. Out of all things God created that were good, His first instance of mentioning "not good" was when it came to Adam having no helper. If God of the universe can notice this, why can't we?

Unfortunately, we can go back and forth sharing different viewpoints and ideologies about why this is so. But I believe it boils down to one thing: pride. Scripture tells us that in the last days men will be lovers of themselves and boastful. (2 Timothy 3:2) When ego goes unchecked, it forms trends and ideologies that have the scent of satan written all over it. It doesn't help that we give accolades to those who have been able to accomplish everything on their own either.

Truthfully speaking, you need a helper. We lean on God in the spirit, but He also desires for us to have someone there in the physical. For those of you who have a worldly perspective on marriage, it's time to change it. Man should not be independent of woman nor woman independent of man. It's in God's will for us to not accomplish everything on our own. So please don't stress yourself out attempting to do so.

When God sends your helper, cherish them, honor them and more importantly love them as the Lord Himself loves you.

Scripture(s) Meditation:

“And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.””

‭‭Genesis‬ ‭2‬:‭18‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

“Nevertheless, neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of man, in the Lord.”

‭‭I Corinthians‬ ‭11‬:‭11‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

Reflection Question(s): We invite you to discuss below.

What was life like growing up for you? Were you forced to be independent? How has that helped/hindered you? What keeps you from accepting help? How will you heal from your past and accept the help God is sending you for your future?


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This spoke to me loudly! God has sent me a helper but yet I work all the time and don’t spend time with him. I prayed and cried for years for this and now I’m not appreciating him and trying to do every on my own. Forgive me Lord


Anthony Stewart
Anthony Stewart
2023년 3월 30일

I love this devotional as we think about marriage from the beginning when God created Eve. His sole purpose was because he seen what loneliness was doing to man and he knew that eventually it would do some damage. It was ok that God was there in spirit but God knew man needed someone there in the physical because that's where man existed. So the scripture the three strand chord wasn't for God it was for us to choose to put God there so our marriages can prosper. He gave us a choice as he does with all things. I've been alone periodically through my whole hurt by family and friends. To be honest I want so e people i…

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